Questions to Stimulate Contemplation and Journaling

Here in Step Three, I have included six mental attributes to help you accelerate the process of self-transformation. These are: imagining the ideal, self-assessment, confession, remorse, forgiveness, and commitment. Each of these is defined in “InterSpiritual Meditation.” To help you contemplate these, I have included a series of questions pertaining to each.

The following questions are posed to stimulate your journaling about each of these mental attributes to be cultivated. Your journal writings will help you to explore and to cultivate these mental attributes as the foundation for your personal contemplative process.

Imagine the Ideal

  • Who is the person that you most admire and whose qualities you would like to emulate?
  • What are the qualities of being that you most want to manifest in your life?
  • What contribution to the world would you most like to make?
  • What is your deepest purpose for life?
  • What way of life and inner being would give your life ultimate meaning?


  • From the depths of your heart, what do you most want to become or to manifest in your life?
  • Who or what are the role models for you to emulate?
  • What must you learn and who can teach you?
  • What internal changes are required to accomplish this?
  • What external life changes are required to accomplish this?
  • What qualities do you need to cultivate for this transformation?
  • What obstacles or negativities do you need to overcome or eliminate?


  • What is your present condition with respect to your transformative goals?
  • What things are you doing, thinking, and saying that are not in line with your ideal?
  • What specific examples of these non-conforming thoughts, words, and actions can you bring to mind just now?
  • Why are these not consistent with your ideal way of being?


  • How do you feel regarding your thoughts, words, and actions that do not measure up to your higher standards?
  • Are you making excuses, or rejecting remorse for fear of poor self-image or esteem?
  • Are you confusing debilitating, unhealthy self-judgment with objective observation of your behaviors needed to reach your goals?


  • Are you able to forgive yourself and not hang on to debilitating guilt?
  • Are you able to forgive others who might be related or complicit in your unsatisfactory thoughts, words, and actions?
  • Are you able to love and care for yourself just as you would another personal for whom you have unconditional love?
  • Are you able to forgive yourself without weakening your resolve for transformation?


  • Are you fully committed to transformation?
  • Are you willing to do what it takes to make the changes you desire?
  • What are the internal obstacles that weaken your resolve?
  • What are the temptations that lure you away from your goals?
  • Why do these temptations seem to be superior that your ideals?
  • Why are these higher ideals superior to your old mental, verbal, and behavior habits?